“Why Do You Homeschool?” (My Attempt to Answer the Question Without Offending Everyone Who Reads This Blog)


Before I begin, let me just tell you that I’ve held out on sharing this post for almost a year!  I never want to alienate any of my readers…and I worried a little bit that this post would make someone feel uncomfortable or offended or even angry.  Please know that no matter whether you homeschool or take your child to private or public school, you are welcome here.  I understand if you think I’m crazy or weird.  I think that sometimes, too!  My intent is not to make anyone feel guilty or leave you thinking I believe everyone should do what we are doing.  This is where God has led us for now. 

Would I love for you to consider homeschooling?  Well, yes I would.  It’s been a real blessing for us.   Do I think everyone should homeschool?  No, I don’t.  But if the only thing holding you back is fear or the feeling that you just can’t do it, I want to reassure you.  I’ve had quite a few questions over the past year or so about why we are homeschooling, and I wanted to address them specifically for our family.


If you had told me seven years ago, I would be teaching my children at home…I’m pretty sure I would’ve laughed in your face.  I attended public school as a child.  My college experience included earning a degree in Elementary Education.  I taught in several schools before the girls came along.  School was my life.   

But somewhere along the line (after my oldest daughter was born), I began to feel uneasy.  I reflected on my time in the school system.  I didn’t like what was happening there, but I didn’t really see any other options.  I knew we couldn’t afford private school.  And then….

God.

Yes, God.  He brought all kinds of amazing people and books and resources into my life.  We began to seriously ponder whether we could actually undertake this difficult task of homeschooling our children.

After studying and praying, I knew without a doubt, we had to do it.

Here are just a few of the reasons why we homeschool:

1)  Life is short.

I’ve shared about the loss of my dad before.  Although I was angry at the time, I’ve since been able to see the gift God gave me through my dad’s death.

Here’s the deal:  His death gave me perspective.  My dad was two days shy of his 50th birthday when he died, and I began to look at my own life differently.

I don’t know the length of my life.  Will I be around one month from now?  50 more years?

Time is short. Already seven years of my oldest daughter’s life have gone by. I can’t rewind time and I can’t get it back, but I want to make the most of what we have together.

Remember my mission statement?  Part of it says, “I will be a whole-hearted follower of Christ and glorify Him by shepherding the hearts of my children.”  It also says, “I will be a whole-hearted follower of Christ by stewarding wisely the time and resources God has entrusted to me.”

At this point, our family believes we must invest the precious time we’ve been given — and give our children a firm foundation.  Yes, I’ve had to “sacrifice” many things I’ve wanted to do.  Yes, I would love to have more time to myself.  Yes, I would love to write a book and write curriculum and take music lessons and speak to groups and have a clean house and cook more exciting meals and spend more time with my friends and on and on….

But…

I don’t have all the time in the world.

I have right now.  And I believe I’m called to pour myself out for my husband and our three little girls.

 

2)  Homeschooling *forces* me invites me into relationship with my children.

I really hesitated to put this in here, because I’m afraid it might be misconstrued.  Please don’t read this the wrong way.  I genuinely love and care for my girls…it’s not like I have to be forced into loving them.  There are just moments when relationships are hard — when parenting is hard.

For instance, I butt heads constantly with one of my daughters.  Some days I think I would love to send her to school — just so I could have a break.  It’s at these moments I realize how valuable homeschooling is for our relationship.

If my girls were away from me for 8 hours a day, I’d miss the character and heart issues that need dealt with (in them AND myself).  Being with my kids 24-7 means we have to find solutions and grow together!  We’re *forced* into building a strong relationship.

In The Well-Adjusted Child, Rachel Gathercole mentions “the detachment snowball.”  This term was coined by Dr William Sears in The Baby Book.  She says, “According to this idea, the more time parents and kids spend apart, the less parents know and understand their kids; the less responsive, respectful, and communicative both parents and kids become; and the more time both need away from each other.”

I don’t want that to happen to my relationship with my children.  All too often, I’ve seen a similar progression in children as they go away to preschool, elementary school, and middle school.  By the time they are teenagers, they want nothing to do with their parents. 

I’m thankful that homeschooling invites us to a deeper relationship with each other — and I’m grateful for the time we have to work on it!

 

3)  I’ve been given a great gift.

I went to a conference last summer and listened to the challenging Voddie Baucham.  He made a comment (actually several of them) that stuck with me…

“Just imagine someone coming to your house, knocking on your door, and asking for the keys to your brand-new car.  They tell you they’re just going to use it during the day, but they’ll return it to you in the evening.”

Are you kidding?!!  That would be crazy…I’d never do that!

Are not our children much more valuable to us than a car?

Yet, we turn our children over to a teacher we’ve met once and let them be influenced and molded by them for hours each day.

Now, do not think for a second that I am bashing teachers!!  I know there are excellent teachers in my community, and there are excellent teachers all across the nation (I hope I was one of them)!  I know how challenging it is to teach and the rewards are often few and far between.

But because I was a teacher, I also know that there are many teachers whose hearts are not in it.  They’ve grown cynical.  They crush instead of inspire. 

More than that, they don’t share my values — and even if they do, they can’t teach them outright in the public schools.

My girls are gifts.  They are little sponges….and I can’t stand the thought of them losing the curiosity they possess and the desire they have to learn and create.

I know what they love.  I know what they struggle with.  I love them more than anyone else ever could.  Ultimately, God has made me responsible for training and discipling them.

I don’t feel I can abdicate that responsibility to someone else for hours and hours each day.

 

4)  Schools are not a good fit for *most* kids.

I personally loved the “school” part of school.  I was good at it.  It fit my learning style.  But I would say I am the exception rather than the rule.

Many schools I’ve seen (and been apart of) attempt to make cookie-cutter people.  They desire uniformity.  They quash creativity.  They have an agenda.  They leave children with wounds.

I’ve seen kindergarteners come to school excited and exuberant.  Nine months later, they leave hating school and learning.

It’s extremely sad.

Unfortunately, there are plenty of other reasons schools are not a good fit for kids:

  • Bullying
  • Violence
  • Peer-dependency
  • Early exposure to alcohol & drugs
  • Sexual experimentation
  • Disrespect for adults

Children are growing up too fast too soon.

I will do what I can to guard my children’s hearts.  I love the analogy that they are like newly-sprouted plants in a greenhouse — they need special care right now.  I’m not going to stick them out in the elements and expect they’ll be able to survive.  They need time to grow deep, strong roots.  It’s my job to nourish them, to protect them, to give them the guidance they need to grow.  Soon enough, they’ll be transplanted outside of our “greenhouse”!

Right now, my children love to learn.  They feel safe.  They talk to me about everything.  Home is a pretty good fit for them.

 

5)  We teach as we live.

When you are one-on-one with a child, you can accomplish “schoolwork” in an abbreviated amount of time.

We don’t have to wait for the other kids to finish their work.  We don’t have to spend time moving from one location to the next.  We don’t have to go at the same speed for everyone.  We don’t have to deal with tons of discipline problems.  Our on-task time is probably more in just a few hours than what children in school accomplish for the whole day!

This frees up our afternoons — for music, cooking, playing outdoors, visiting, serving, or other creative pursuits!  We’re involved in local classes, sports, Girl Scouts, and various other community activities.  When family members visit from other states, we can take off and enjoy their company.  We can “do school” in the evening if necessary — or even on the weekend (yes, we have)!

Life is education.  Education is life.

 

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I realize that homeschooling is not an option for everybody.  Please do not take my own personal reasons as judgment on what your family has chosen to do!  Again, lots of you have asked, and I just wanted to share why WE homeschool.

Truthfully, there are hard days.  There are days I want to give up.  There are days I think I’m just pretty much crazy.  There are days I blow it.

However, the blessings far outweigh the hardships.  I cannot even imagine my life without these three little people with me most of the day!  If homeschooling is something you want to try or you’ve been considering, you can do it.  I truly believe that!

Questions?  Comments?  Please feel free to voice your opinion and share your thoughts!  This can be an emotionally-charged issue, so I do ask that we keep our comments kind and respectful!

 


About Stacie Nelson

is the creator of MotherhoodOnADime.com. She is passionate about encouraging moms and giving them creative, yet simple, activities to do with their children. A bargain-hunter by nature, she enjoys sharing deals and freebies.

She also loves extra dark chocolate, jogging, writing, cooking dairy and gluten-free, and attempting to declutter her book-filled rooms. Faith and family are her top priorities, and she seeks to encourage others to live life on purpose.

Comments

  1. Nicole says:

    Thank you so much for writing this! I have a 5th month old son and people are already giving my husband & I a hard time about us wanting to homeschool our son & future children. I can’t wait to share this post on facebook so others can see a little more of WHY we are doing what we are doing!

    • Stacie says:

      I’m so glad you were encouraged — I hoped and prayed it would be helpful to at least a few people. I never know how something will be received, but I’m thankful if God can use it!

  2. Valerie says:

    Thanks for posting this! This is a great reminder of why we are homeschooling (starting in the fall) and the relationship I have to look forward to with my kids. Thanks again!

    • Stacie says:

      Yay! I just prayed for your first year. There will be challenging moments — but there will be some really amazing moments, too!

  3. SandiP says:

    So excited to see this list of reasons, because it feels like yet another confirmation for my family!!

    I gave notice at my job a few months back, and am exactly one month away from being a SAHM and homechooling mom for my son (age 4) and daughter (age 2).

    I have a teaching degree and a masters degree (although for secondary ed), and have a lot of the same concerns about our educational system as it stands now, with the emphasis on standardized testing. My son has been at a private Christian preschool 2 days a week since September, and I’m already deeply uncomfortable with the pressure for him to “sit still” and learn. There’s also the negative behavior he’s learned and negative treatment he’s received from other children in his class. We’re paying for this to happen to him!!

    I’m so looking forward to this change. I know it won’t be easy but I know that these two beautiful children are God’s gift to me, for us to teach each other how to be more like Christ, and it’s the right thing for us. Thanks for the affirmation!!

    • Stacie says:

      That’s so awesome, Sandi! It will probably not be an easy transition (the enemy loves to attempt to thwart what God is doing), but I’m praying you’ll be surrounded by His presence, encouraged, and strengthened with wisdom.

      A book that was so affirming to me when I first began staying at home was Home by Choice: Raising Emotionally Secure Children in an Insecure World. It was hard for me, because I was so used to receiving praise and affirmation because of my job, but this book encouraged me about the importance of what I was doing as a mom! Anyway, that’s kind of a sidebar…

      Blessings to you!

  4. What a wonderful post. I do not home school my children, (my daughter is in the public school and my son is in a private preschool) but I appreciate everyone who goes that route. It takes a great parent to be such a huge part in your child’s education. I like to think of school as a secondary place for learning – a place where people can teach my kids the information I do not possess. For us, it works. I’m happy to see that home schooling works for you! :-)

    • Stacie says:

      I’m grateful for your kind comment and encouraging words, Cindy! Blessings to you and enjoy your sweet little ones!

    • Lucy says:

      Cindy, I’d say that homeschooling makes a better parent out of me. I don’t need to be a great parent to start, I only need to start. But homeschooling for the last 8 years has made me more patient and compassionate toward not only my children but everyone. Just something to think about.

  5. Terri says:

    Thanks so much for writing this, Stacie. We come from such a similar perspective in so many ways and it was so encouraging to read how you put so many of my own feelings and thoughts into words. <3

    • Stacie says:

      I’m so excited for you and your little guys! You’ve got to keep me up-to-date on your latest good reads…I’m always looking for new books!

  6. Rhonda Tinkham says:

    Thank you for writing this! Well-written and a joy and comfort to read. I too homeschool. Our #1 reason for hs’ing began as frustrations wiht the public school. Yet it quickly evolved to spending the time with my boys and joy of discovering God’s niche for each one.

    • Stacie says:

      I love that! “God’s niche for each one.”

      It’s so fun to see what different strengths and gifts each of my girls have been given!

  7. Dawn says:

    Finally, a balanced, non-fear-based argument for homeschooling! I’m a teacher in a community where a number of people home-school…for all the wrong reasons. They homeschool because their pastor told them to, or because their brother-in-law told them a story that he heard from his buddy, or because they want their kids to work 12-hour days at age 14, or because they themselves had awful experiences at school. In some cases, 2 or 3 years later, they send their kids back to public school, and it’s our job to get the kids caught up. (There is a registration system with the provincial government, but it’s not enforced.)

    Your reason #4 resonated with me. I’ve often thought that if I ever have kids, and one of them has ADD or a similar condition, I’d likely want to homeschool. I’ve worked 1-on-1 with kids who are labelled behaviour problems, and I’ve seen them shine in a quiet, controlled environment.

    I wish you continued success in your endeavours!

    • Stacie says:

      Thank so much, Dawn! I definitely don’t homeschool out of fear! The decision was based on many other factors…even more than I have listed, but I thought I was getting too lengthy. :)

      I worked in a private school once where I had just four students in Kindergarten. I saw how much they could learn — and how quickly in one-on-one situations and a small group setting. Just like you said, when you work one-on-one with a child, they can shine. Homeschooling is well-suited to that! We get lots of one-on-one time…

      • Kate Van Gundy says:

        Stacie, thank you for this article! It is refreshing to hear someone else say all the things my husband and I talk about. We have homeschooled for 6 years. Sometimes the days are great, others are, well.. the Lord has those days!! :) Dawn, thank you, thank you, for being a teacher and saying a child with ADD or ADHD would learn better at home! Our oldest as ADHD, and has thrived at home with a quiet learning center just for her. She is even testing, with the state, four grade levals ahead! So often, my husband and I are asked when will we put the kids in school. Our answer is always, the kids are thriving at home, so we will keep them there!

  8. I *just* finished a post about this (why we homeschool) today! I should have waited, linked to this post & said “what she said!” You have said perfectly what I bumbled around trying to express. I am also a ‘teacher by trade’ and well, I just completely agree with what you said! I’ll be linking to this page! :)

  9. Loved this and couldn’t agree more. God placed it my heart to homescool also! Wish we lived in the same town so my three boys old play with your three girls! :)

  10. Loved this and couldn’t agree more. God placed it my heart to homeschool also! Wish we lived in the same town so my three boys old play with your three girls! :)

  11. well said! After a decade of homeschooling, you’ve articulated what I feel. thanks!

  12. This is such a fantastic, sensitive and encouraging article! I have been considering home education for my son as soon as he was born, but now I find myself as a single parent, I have difficulty believing it can work in that situation! Your reasons for home schooling are the exact same reasons I tell myself everyday for why my son is not in nursery/pre-school (he is 2), but once he turns what is considered to be school age, I am worried that I will not be able to support his needs and provide enough attention for him to thrive while also being entirely and solely responsible for this learning, he care of our home, bills and income! Do you have any thoughts or experience on how home schooling can work effectively in a single parent family? x

  13. you did a great job my friend! no one should ever feel offended by these words. i totally get the “forced” relationships. that actually was one of the things that i like about it:)

  14. Kristie says:

    Thank you for posting this. My 5 year old son will be attending kindergarten in the Fall and I am so fearful of what he will soak up and what I will miss out with him. I have wondered if public school or home schooling is best and have heard both sides. I have wonderful friends who home school their children and have a ton of resources available. I am fearful that I can not give my son the education that he needs, but am willing to at least try homeschooling and see where it leads. Unfortunately, my husband is not on board at all and extended family is against me homeschooling my boys. So for now, I feel as though I have lost the battle and am trusting God to open doors and hearts if that is His will for our sons. Thank you for your encouragement and view on this subject.

  15. THANK YOU SO MUCH for writing this! I knew I wanted to have my son homeschooled, but I just didn’t/ don’t feel equipped to do it. However, I also knew I (and my husband) have many reasons for wanting this, but I couldn’t find the words. This is exactly why I want my son to be homeschooled. The next step is feeling equipped personally. Can you write a post on that? I used to live for my work. After losing my job prior to my son’s birth, I found out that being too involved in your work isn’t a good thing! I wrapped my head around being a stay at home mom finally. Now, I’m preparing to return to the workforce. Maybe I need to think about homeschooling. I just can’t wrap my head around that yet. I urge you to please write another post. Thanks again!!

    • Bethany says:

      The great thing about homeschooling is you don’t necessarily have to be “equipped personally”! There are SO many resources out there and even curriculum that essentially tell you how and what to teach and when! Depending on how old your son is, especially if he is a toddler/ preschooler or even kindergarter, you can start slow and ease into it at a pace that works for you! I know fear of being inadequate was my biggest hesitation to homeschooling, so I am just starting slow with my preschooler!

  16. Also, do you see homeschooling affording enough options and learning (for lack of a better way to convey this) for an only child?

  17. Barb says:

    Wonderful article that fits our family as well. We are nearing the end of our homeschooling of our 9 children. Our youngest son is a freshman in high school and youngest daughter a junior so in 3 more years we will be finished with over 25 years of homeschooling. There were days when I was ready to call it quits but the hard work was definitely worth it! We have children who love the Lord and are responsible wonderful adults.(I am looking forward to helping with the homeschooling of our 4+ grandchildren.)

  18. Susan says:

    You can not begin to imagine how much this message means to me, especially now. My twins started attending a private Christian school that is part of our church, when they were 3 years old. Both did very well up until Kindergarten. Many things came so easy to my son, but my daughter struggled a bit more. I really thought it was just because she was so shy and she didn’t like to be “wrong”. The first week of first grade, her teacher told me she believed she had a “learning disability” because she had a hard time putting her thoughts on to paper and placed her in a “special” class with a few other children that met twice a week. While I was okay with her getting this “extra” help, I couldn’t see the issue at home. The year was too long and we started to pray about our options. God spoke to me in a profound way, and I knew what I needed to do. My son has a heart condition and has juvenile migraines, so I also thought this would be a great way to keep him healthy…and has it ever!! However, even though we are finishing our second year homeschooling, our families still disagree with our decision and let us know every chance they get. They simply don’t believe I am qualified to teach my children because I do not have a degree in education. It is so frustrating! But I know that God has a plan for us and will continue to bless our journey as long as we continue to seek His will. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I thank God for you today!!!

  19. I have noticed that many of the comments that people have posted were about not feeling equipped.
    I would like to give you some encouragement – God has promised us in His Word that if He calls us to do something that He will help you to do it. You don’t have to go it alone. HE the almighty God will help you! What an amazing promise!
    Secondly there are plenty of curriculum’s out there that do all the work for you. Its nothing harder than reading directions if you just follow the teacher’s manual. There are also lots of online classes for available. Homeschooling is what you choose to make it.
    I too have a husband who isn’t totally on board and his family has also shared their negative attitudes toward homeschooling. But I figure at the end of the day, they are still my kids and I have to answer to God for my choices not the in-laws.

    • Chantal says:

      Di, you hit the nail on the head! God will give us what we need, when we need it. If I had to rely on myself being ready or able, I wouldn’t last a week homeschooling. It is by His grace alone! And yes, that IS an AMAZING promise. I love it when God’s word speaks directly to our situation, and feel so confident when I can stand upon it. May God lead all you mothers in the direction that He seeks for your lives, and the lives of your children, and may He bless you abundantly as you walk in obedience to His calling—whatever that may be.

  20. I just reread my post above. I apologize for the errors. Typing on an android while nursing an active four month old can be tricky at times.

  21. Llinda says:

    Great summary of 5 reasons. I’d add – 6 -the success rate of homeschooled people – in politics and business – it is one of the reasons homeschooling has remained protected. 7 If you follow any one child in many school settings for an entire day and count the minutes they are engaged in learning (which I define as working on a concept one step ahead of where you are ) versus listening to presentations below or above their level, WAITING, being interrupted, etc it is discouraging. 8 Most of a public school day presents concepts in the least effective way possible – listening and reading vs the most effective way – life experiences and exploration that incorporate motivated readying and listening. Stacie is one of those Moms who realize she is “building cathedrals” and I admire her for that. Linda

  22. Beautifully written! I commend you for being brave enough to share your views and beliefs. This post really hit home for me so I appreciate you writing it. I agree with and can relate to your reasons for homeschooling and quite honestly it made me a bit emotional. I lost my sister very unexpectedly 3 1/2 years ago and it completely changed my perspective on life too. My son has been attending 3K this year and while he has enjoyed it my eyes have been opened to certain things and I feel God is leading us to homeschool. So we will start in the fall (unofficially since my son will only be in 4K). I am excited but also very nervous and lately I have been second-guessing my decision. Thankfully, my husband and most of our family members have been very supportive of our decision so that helps. But your post has given me a boost and reassurance that I HAVE made the right decision and I thank you for that. Best wishes to you and I look forward to hearing more about your homeschooling journey.

  23. Sabrina Fraley says:

    Oh my. Talk about God leading. :) This is the first time I’ve been on your site and stumbled here looking for the letter printables.
    My husband and I have been in serious discussions about preparing to homeschool our boys (age 3 years and 7 months). Mainly, he’s encouraging and supportive and I’m doubting my abilities, regardless that I have 2 degrees and was a Paramedic for 10 years.
    Your post made the most sense of any I’ve read and truly convicted my heart that my husband is right. “How much more valuable to us are our children than our cars?”
    Thank you. I needed that.
    Blessings!

  24. Tami says:

    soo many comments! :) I hope that everyone who reads Stacie’s post will be encouraged to be more involved in their children’s education, even if they choose to send their kids to public or private schools (our kids go to public school). Let’s volunteer often, debrief our kids at the end of the day, or in the middle (mine eat lunch at home everyday), really talk to the teachers and the other kids and parents to monitor how things are environmentally. We also need to be sure to jump in and relentlessly engage w/our kids struggles, be it pride or self-centeredness or jealousy or deceitfulness, etc! I am thankful for our kids’ schools and teachers, but they cannot and should not be tasked with raising our children! :)

  25. Oh how I love this post. I am a mom to 4, oldest being 23 (privately schooled) and youngest being 3. The younger 3 are homeschooled. I love homeschooling and feel just as you do somedays with the kids, but would not change where the Lord has me for anything!

    Be blessed!

    Melissa

  26. I think you guys are AWESOME for what you are doing. My boys are 14 and 12…I really think if I could go “back” and “re-do”…I would homeschool my boys for the early years…They both had wonderful experiences in the public school but we also had a couple of NOT so wonderful experiences. I always felt like I was not capable of teaching my boys what they needed to know…but I have since changed my mind! ha ha!
    I really admire you and think what you are doing is great.

  27. Stacey says:

    Well Im a homeschool grad – 26 years old and very fond of my memories growing up being homeschooled.

    The part “For instance, I butt heads constantly with one of my daughters. Some days I think I would love to send her to school — just so I could have a break. It’s at these moments I realize how valuable homeschooling is for our relationship.”

    I am that daughter – the one you butt heads with (well not YOUR daughter)- I don’t look back on those days with my mom as bright spots in my life but WOW the love I learned through her never giving up on me through the temper tantrums and raging anger left a lasting impact on my life. I tell people that if I had to go to school I wouldn’t be the woman I am today, school would have crushed me personally and everything of who I am wouldn’t have survived.

    Just a little encouragement from “that daughter” on the flip side. You say you know its worth it. I say I KNOW ITS WORTH IT. Keep plugging away and loving her through it, she will thank you!

    (FYI any spelling or grammar mistakes are NOT my mom’s fault, she tried, oh how she tried LOL)

  28. Courtney says:

    Thank you for writing this! I’m struggling with the decision to stay home with my almost two year old son next school year. I was a classroom teacher for 5 years and this past year I’ve been a math facilitator, one of my dream jobs where I get to teach kindergarteners through fifth graders and coach teachers on teaching math. I love my job, but I know time with my little guy is slipping away. With only three weeks left in the school year, it’s major decision time. My family knows about my indecision and are super supportive either way. My husband has been great about it. I’ve prayed for God to show me what he wants me to do next year. I just told a friend today that I desperately want to hear God’s booming voice revealing what he wants me to do. I think outsiders think it’d be easy to make this decision, but it’s hard because I do love my job. However, I LOVE my son more, and staying home for a while is something I’ve always said I would want to do when we had kids. Now he’s almost 2! I thank you for your post. Thank you for letting God use you to help others who are going through this same decision process.

  29. Stacie ~ first, I am new to your blog. I am a member of iHN, too (welcome!), and wanted to visit you tonight and say hello.

    I read this post and this could have been written by ME! I, too, was a product of public schools and then taught in them for 10 years – even got my masters in administration because I wanted to be a principal. And then, just like you — God stepped in and revealed His better plan!

    I appreciated your post so much tonight, and it was truly God sent. I am meeting with a friend in the morning who has chosen to take her 6th and 3rd graders out of public school and start homeschooling. I’m printing this for her to include in a little folder of inspiration I’m giving to her.

    Blessings to you — and it’s nice to meet you! :-)

  30. Melanie Haspels says:

    Great, Stacie. Now I have to think about this as a possibility :) My kids aren’t even to preschool age yet, but I’ve been thinking about their future schooling and what would be best. I had written off homeschooling because I didn’t think it was where I was gifted or that I would be the best teacher for my children (as if I’m not teaching them something every day while I’m at home with them!). Now I realized I wasn’t even open to praying about it, and you gave some really good points to consider. So, I guess I need to open my mind to even seeing what God’s direction is regarding this for our family. If we end up doing this, it will be because you wrote this post :)

  31. thanks for this
    wonderful summary
    of why so many of us
    follow the path of homeschooling

    and that quote by Voddie
    is one that i hadn’t heard before
    but so apt and true

    pinned it
    and shared it on FB

    blessings!

    alison

  32. Libby says:

    I LOVE this post! It’s so encouraging. I was homeschooled from K-12 and had a great experience; I also have an El. Ed. degree, and yet I often wonder if I could homeschool my own children. With our first child on the way now, my husband and I have had many discussions about homeschooling….and I’m starting to feel that maybe I could do it. Thanks for the good thoughts. And coming for the homeschool kid perspective– I agree with your reasons.

  33. Julie Davis says:

    That was awesome! I have to say you’ve hit the nail on the head with the building relationships part. I must share what my two oldest daughters wrote on my Mother’s Day card. This is not to toot my own horn, but to show what will happen when you shepherd your children day in and day out through the years. Sometimes moms a few years behind me need encouragement to stay in the race. Here’s #1 daughter’s (17 yrs. old) words: “Thank you for being such a great mom. I love that we have such a great relationship. You make growing up so easy and painless. Thank you for all you do. Love you so much.” And daughter #2 (almost 16) wrote, “Thank you so much for being the person you are. I love being with my family all the time. So thanks for homeschooling us! You guys are the best parents anyone could ask for. I love you.” The lie today is that kids don’t want to spend time with their families, but deep down they do. Homeschooling, like you beautifully shared, is a way of life and it will bring families together when done with God at the helm!

  34. Melissa says:

    I love the way you worded your 5 reason. We also homeschool (9, 6 and almost 4 year olds). My husband is the “teacher”. We chose to do it for the reasons you mention and it fits our life style. But my kids love it, my 9 year old is still a 9 year old little girl who loves to play with dolls and doesn’t care what the name tag says on her clothes sure she likes pretty things afterall she is a girl but it can be from Walmart or from the big wig designer to them it doesn’t matter. I love that they are so innocent and still children as they should be.

    We have days somethimes even weeks that are challenging, but don’t all parents regardless of type of schooling. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I not only get to spent more time with my kids I truly get to know them.

    For all parents who are scared about teaching there children, I want to add my husband was a chef before he became a stay home dad. Also, it;’s kind of a relearning for us the parents. We, as parents, have learned all this stuff throughout our education weather it’s remembered or not. therefore, as we now pass it on to our children we recall it ourselves.

    I thank you for posting the advantage of homechool thru the importance of family time and individual learning

  35. sheila coito says:

    hi! im visiting (and dont want to leave) from when you rise! i have a preschooler w some health problems (bad enough that i had to quit working as a nurse to care for him 24/7) and due to germ exposure from other kids, his docs made him leave preschool in february and we were on isolation. When we started the school year last september, i knew that he may have to quit, so i ordered curriculum from ABCJLM and planned to homeschool w the perk of preschool socializing six hours per week. I failed miserably and I think I have been carrying that failure w me:( Alot of changes were happening in EVERY ASPECT of our lives it seemed, and it was just too overwhelming. I didnt grow up a Christian and (it was told to me that) people that homeschooled were “bible thumpers” and depriving their children, yada yada, so it didnt seem like such a loss. BUT as I grow w my 41/2 year old, I am getting anxious at the thought of school starting in JULY and THREE days a week! And then- EVERYDAY next year? And then everyday allday?!?! Im getting palpitations just thinking about it, lol. Anyway- I REALLY WANT TO THANK YOU for helping me to get excited about homeschooling again! I know its better for my son’s health anyway, but that failure feeling is haunting! Thanks for giving me the gusto again:) And really, I have all preschool year to “perfect” my homeschooling before the REAL curriculum starts, anyway, right? lol.

  36. Tabitha says:

    This has been the encouraging reminder that I have been praying for…. I CAN do this! I, too, just 5 years ago, would have laughed at anyone who told me I would be considering homeschooling. As a product of public schooling and having fond memories of my childhood in school I always assumed that I would be shipping my kiddos off to Kindergarten as soon as they were of age. Boy, oh boy has the table turned. Time does go too quickly and I have enjoyed teaching them what they know thus far & it is exciting and a thrill to watch my girls blossom. We will begin our first year on this journey with Kindergarten and I am so thankful for the resources & large HS community in our area. It is also reassuring to know there are others with doubts, reservations, and in need of encouragement just like me :)

  37. Rebecca says:

    Thank you. Thank you so much. This will be my first year homeschooling. My youngest is 5, my oldest 15, I wish I had been given the opportunity to homeschool or rather even thought I could do it when my oldest was 5, but life was different back then, I’m different now, I’m terrified and excited all in the same breath. This was a huge help for me to read!

  38. Thank you so much for this! I needed to read this. I have just withdrawn my children from public school, am sending in the affidavits to the state this week and have been having second thoughts. I know this is right for us… I’ve just been getting nervous. I’m so thankful to have found and read this post. It’s time for me to turn those nerves into excitement for the wonderful things to come with my children.

  39. Rebecca says:

    Thanks!! I am getting ready to start my second year of hs and really needed to hear this!!! Needed to know I could do it and be reminded of why I was doing it… Thanks for sharing your heart.
    -Rebecca

  40. Wonderful post! Just came across your site today. I just wrote about the same subject a couple of days ago on my blog too!
    You never need feel you should apologise for your choice to homeschool, just in case you might offend someone. It is one of those things that gets to the heart of ones core values, as homeschooling is essentially an extension of our role as parents and we all think we are making the right choices for our children, whether homeschooled or not. But every family is different! And we are only responsible for our own families.
    May you blessed beyond your wildest dreams.
    – Victoria

  41. Wow, thanks so much for sharing this. I have just started homeschooling this past week with my 5 year old son (along with my 3, 2 and 7 month old daughters). We were in tears for two days and I was beginning to question whether we had made the right decision. Thanks for the encouragement to press on and to remember that it is in God’s hands and I can only rely on Him for strength in the tough times. God bless!

    • Stacie says:

      Awww…don’t stress-out!! You have your plate quite full right now with your little ones. It’s perfectly okay with a five-year-old to read aloud, do some projects, do some basic number and alphabet practice, and just go with his interests! You don’t have to worry about “doing school” like everyone else and putting so much pressure on him (and yourself)! GRACE and PEACE to you, Becky!

  42. Kristin Wright says:

    Thank you for this post. I appreciate your insight and honesty.

  43. i was trying to start homeschooling my daughter. she’s five and being singled out at school, BY THE TEACHER! her school is less than accommodating. i asked to have her moved to a different class, but they won’t do it. I was told that i had to file a letter of intent with the superintendent. would you know what that letter would state? I’m not sure how to word it. you can email me if you have any info, it would be REALLY helpful: [email protected] thanks!!

  44. Oh my! This is beautiful! I just found you on pinterest. I am so glad I did! I started homeschooling last school year after Christmas break. There was a lot of family issues going on at the time. But, my son was also having a hard time in school. He does have a hard time focusing, but he is also a great kid! He wants to do well and please. But, most of the time when I would see the teacher, she would hardly have anything good to say about him.

    She would punish him and send him outside alone to run laps! He was starting to hate school! He is a smart kid and I just could not take it any more! My daughter was also learning some bad behavior and always questioning my authority and comparing me to her teacher. She was also questioning what I was teaching her about God, because she was being told other things from teachers and students!

    When I pulled them out, I was scared! I did not think I was going to make it! The teachers also did NOT approve of my choice. But, I stuck to it. I had to do something for my kids or I was going to loose them. I was fortunate enough to find some amazing homeschooling mom’s that have been like pillars for me! Now I love it! I love it more than I ever thought I would! My kids miss having “friends” everyday, but really, they see friends all the time! And I am not going to loose my kids respect, trust, and love over “friends”! They do love that they can do school work in bed, or while eating snacks though! Or, that it counts as school to go to the Zoo, or park!

    I am so glad I found your blog and look forward to learning from what you have to offer!

    Thanks again for sharing!

    Enid

    • I’m so sorry that happened to your son. :( I am glad to have you join me here though!! Blessings to you!

  45. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. We have just started homeschooling this year, and we love it! Unfortunately, we have encountered some rude criticism from certain family members and I was wondering if you could give some insight on how to deal with such nay sayers.

    • Hi, Rebecca! In general, I just respond to negative comments by saying we felt led by God into homeschooling. If they want to question God’s call, I let them!! I think the benefits will eventually speak for themselves. I know one family whose parents were not on board at all, but through the years, they’ve begun to see the benefits.

      Even though it is more accepted, it is still going against the grain of our culture, so there will be negative comments unfortunately. I think actions – more than words – will be the factor that changes someone’s opinion. In the meantime, pray a lot, do what you know is right, and refuse to let someone else’s opinion sway you. Feel free to email me if you have a more specific situation that you’d like me to pray for!

  46. Thank you for this post!! As a teacher for 14 years, I can relate! We just moved across the country and we sent our oldest to kindergarten. Classes are overcrowded, 30 in a class and the teacher has no help. We felt the best decision is to homeschool. We also have a 4 year old. This was day 2 and things are going well. It is overwhelming, but I know God will see us through this.

    • Stacie says:

      Wow! 30 in a kindergarten classroom is way too many, huh? Do you have any kind of support group or other activities available to you? I have found those to be such an encouragement when I feel like giving up or I’m not sure which way to go. There will be difficult times, but the rewards are so sweet!

      Blessings!

  47. That was beautifully written. We are in our first year of homeschooling and like you if someone would have told me years ago I’d be doing it now I would have laughed. This is by far one of the hardest things I’ve taken on but also realize how it causes you to look at yourself and your motives. God is so good at bringing us through what He’s called us to. We are growing stronger as a family in ways we never thought we would.:) We are ultimatly responsible for how we’ve raised our children. I loved reading these encouraging words today, glad I found this post! blessings to you and yours!

  48. Christine says:

    This is awesome thank you for posting this! :)

  49. Hi! i stumbled across your blog today and I REALLY enjoy it! Homeschooling is something that I have been thinking about, even though I’ve not yet been blessed with children, it’s never too early to pray about things like this. You’ve opened up my eyes to many benefits. Thanks for presenting this in such a great and attractive way. Most of all I love how God is the center of your life, and even at the school of your children :)
    Thanks for sharing!

  50. Cassandra Bugle says:

    Thank you so much for posting this. I agree with so much of what you posted. I don’t have children right now but I want them someday and I have already decided that I want to homeschool my future children. I am planning to earn a BA in Educational Studies because I enjoy helping others and I think I’m a good mentor and tutor. I was specifically thinking of helping children that are home schooled somehow.

  51. Thank you SO much for writing this. I have been looking for somethig like this to give me reassurance. I know that I want to homeschool and so many people have a negative stigma towards it (why? I don’t know). You reassured me by listing all the reasons I want to homeschool. Thank you for this!

  52. WOW I could have been writing this!! I however have not gone to college or been a teacher. The world will tell you that if you yourself are not “Educated” as a teacher, how can you possibly be qualified to teach your kids!! But no one asks you when you take a baby home from the hospital wether or not you are “qualified” to teach your child to walk or to talk!! I love your statement Education is Life and Life is Education. This is sooo true, and I would encourage ANY mom that you can teach your own kids. I have been blessed with an amazing homeschool support group, that started at the MOPS group I was attending. I would encourage moms to find other homeschooling families for support and to support, it’s been one of the best things during my homeschooling journey!!

  53. Patrick Bezanson says:

    Considering homeschooling, I came across this post and it truly was inspiring. It will be bookmarked!

  54. Thank you for writing your story! I can relate in so many ways… My daughter is going to start homeschool kindergarten this next year, even though we have been ‘playing school’ for at least two years during which she has already learned so much. If you have any helpful getting started ideas for us newbies please let me know!! Thanks again for all your helpful information!!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      My best advice is to keep it simple! It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the choices and curriculum and freebies out there, but the best thing you can do when they are that small is read to them a ton, play games with them, and enjoy them! :) RELAX is my best advice!

  55. Beth S. says:

    As a new elementary teacher, I appreciate your reasons. There are so many things I’m seeing now that I didn’t see when I was student teaching. It really makes me wonder sometimes why I chose this career.

    As for homeschooling, that is something I’ve wanted to do since my oldest was born. She just turned 14. Unfortunately, I don’t have the opportunity (it isn’t feasible for us financially, as my husband’s business has taken quite a hit because of the economy). I just don’t understand why God would put this desire so firmly in me, yet not provide the way to make it happen. I struggle with that. Any advice?

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Hi, Beth! I am sure that is so hard to struggle with. I don’t know the particulars of your situation, but if God is calling you to that it seems that a way would be provided. Could you make any big financial changes (smaller house, tighter budget, one vehicle, etc.) that could make it a possibility? Maybe you could do some tutoring or other on-the-side work to get you through? I’m just throwing some ideas out, and I definitely can’t tell you anything concrete without knowing particulars. I’ve found that homeschooling has definitely taken sacrifice on my part—of our finances, of my ambitions, of being considered normal! It’s challenging a lot of times, but it has been a calling for us!

      Is your husband on the same page as you? Has he felt that as well?

      I doubt anything I’m saying is particularly helpful, but feel free to email me, too!

  56. I found this post through Pinterest of all places, and I just had to comment and tell you that everything you wrote here is what my gut has been telling me for months but never had the correct words to make me rationalize it out in my head. I have a 4.5 year old in Catholic pre-k and a 2.5 year old who has not been in school of any kind as of yet. here I am filling out forms, writing checks, thinking about “what am I going to do with myself when they’re BOTH out of the house all day and in school???” and the thought of home schooling tugs at me. I think of the words and phrases my 4 year old comes home with from her private Catholic school and while they’re not lewd or anything, they’re not language we would ever use and home schooling tugs at me again. I think about her also asking me when her belly is going to go away – at FOUR YEARS OLD – and know that she is getting that from kids in her class, and home schooling tugs at me. I look at my little one and think about how it will be hard to give her over to someone else’s care and home schooling tugs at me. I read this article you wrote and I was in tears. I think the only thing stopping me is fear of the unknown. I don’t fear ridicule at all – I just fear not making the right choices for my girls. So I know you wrote this a long time ago but I had to stop and say thank you for it because it has really hit a place in my heart and gt and may even be the catalyst for taking the leap and deciding to do it. Now if only I had a clue as to where on earth to start…lol.

  57. WOW!!! I just your read your reasons for homeschooling and they resonate so much with me! I went to public school all the way through and then to a community college. I had some good times, but also many not so good times. My little sister attended a small private Christian school from preschool (age 3) through 7th grade. Her school closed. She then attended a bigger Christian school for 8th grade. She is now at a public high school. She has had a difficult journey with school. Not with the teachers so much, mostly with the kids picking on her. She has more friends at the public high school than she has ever had, but we are not so happy with the language and behaviors she has picked up. Said all that to say this: I have a 3 1/2 yr old and I have been weighing preschool options for awhile. I have always loved education and I loved watching them be so excited about going, making new friends, new bookbags, new school supplies, etc., but with the experiences of my sister, I have become cynical and jaded and pretty uncertain about my daughter going to school. I have asked my Sunday school class to help me pray about it. I am leaning (right now) towards homeschooling preschool. Kindergarten? We’ll have to cross that bridge when we come to it. I work 3 twelve hours shifts a week, so that is a factor. I was leaning towards sending her to preschool until my husband said that he wasn’t really comfortable with sending either. I thought I was just being a mom until he said that. My really good friend homeschools her 7yr old. Her 4yr old is my daughter’s bestie and we have talked about homeschooling the girls together. I just this week started going over a preschool workbook that I bought with my daughter. Since I have pretty much decided to homeschool preschool, I have also decided to get her out more for socializing. I know many people say that homeschooled kids are socially inept and I don’t want that to happen. So, in addition to church and Sunday School and dance class, I have started taking her to story time at the library. I know this comment is long, but I just felt the need to get off of my chest where I am coming from. Thank you so much for writing this. Thank you also for the preschool stuff I found on Pinterest tonight. I was looking for a way to incorporate the Bible into the ABCs. Good job! And, thanks again. God Bless!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Thanks so much for your kind comment! I’m so glad you are considering it! I have several friends who work shifts (kind of like you) who are homeschooling. I think it can be challenging figuring out the logistics, but it is definitely doable! When you consider how quickly you can do the same amount of work/curriculum, you really don’t have to have a ton of time for preschool and early elementary ages! Then, once they get a little older, they are much more independent. At least that’s what I’ve found even with my eight-year-old! :)

      Blessings to you!

  58. I so appreciated your thoughts. I never saw my family as the type that would homeschool. My kids age 4 and 12 so love our public school system (we relocated to get into the best one we could find after realizing that our private school wasn’t what we needed). They have so much pride showing me their accomplishments and have made wonderful friends. They are both so independant and I have long thought they NEED that time away from their smother, I mean mother, lol. In the last month my daughter has been involved with a terrible bully situation and I am forced to see that not all families share the values that we hold. I’m also now hearing that there has been an out break of STD’s in this school of 6th to 8th graders. Now the choice to make the change ways heavy on me because we would be leaving a *nearly* perfect scenario,letting fear influence our decisions.Your post has given me a lot to think about.

  59. Shannan says:

    I loved your article. I have decided to HS one of my sons next year. He is going into 6th grade. My husband thinks I am making a huge mistake even though he hasn’t invested the time into researching like I have. I gave him your article to read and said ” here, this is why I’m homeschooling”. Thank you for simplifying it for me. God bless you.

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Thank you, Shannan! Please be sure you are part of a support group–that first year can be difficult, and it’s so helpful to have others around you who are doing the same thing you are doing.

  60. Shannan says:

    Forgot to mention that after I get the “hang of it… I will be HOmeschooling my 4th grader too.

  61. Jean says:

    This is my absolute favorite “why we homeschool” list! I completely agree. I’m going to print it out and read it on the hard days. Thank you from this former public school teacher!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Thank you so much! Sometimes I have to make myself reread it on the hard days, too…

  62. Jenny says:

    Hi! I found this through freehomeschooldeals.com, and I really loved this. I have a two year old and a newborn. Our two year old is always bored and loves to learn, so I am always on the lookout for fun activities for her.

    I really feel called to homeschool. These reasons are absolutely the reason why. Unfortunately, my husband is not on the same page. His family frequently blames shyness on being at home (even just now, with me staying at home). I think he is influenced by them and that is why he is not receptive to the idea of homeschooling. Do you have any pointers for helping to open the lines of communication on this? I know if I insisted, he would give in but I want it to be a decision that he is comfortable with and feels called to also.

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      You are super smart, Jenny! You definitely don’t want to make the decision without your husband. It can be really challenging–and if your main support isn’t on-board with you, you will become quite discouraged (and even give up–to be really honest).

      My husband was also hesitant, mainly because it wasn’t something either of us was really familiar with. We both grew up in small towns in very small schools, and the school was pretty much the main-stay of the community. Homeschooling just seemed like a really strange thing to do!

      When I began to sense God calling, the very first thing I did was pray, pray, and pray some more. My husband was open enough to look at some books and writings I had found, and he also went to a homeschool conference with me. I don’t know if you have any kind of homeschool groups in your area, but it is definitely a great idea to check out those, too.

      • Jenny says:

        Thanks, Stacie! I have asked him to just keep it in prayer and think on it. We have time! How did you find a homeschool conference to attend? (Sorry if this is covered elsewhere.)

  63. Missy says:

    What an absolutely encouraging article! I am a homeschool mother of three and while I would have it no other way, I do find my oldest daughter and I butt heads constantly. There have been days of tears and thoughts of why don’t I just put her in school, but I know that is not the best choice for us. So I like how you said that homeschool makes us work on our relationships… I think too often our society has taught us to run from relationships when it doesn’t go like we think it should. Homeschool is not only a great option for book learning but also life lessons. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      I so agree, Missy! I think it really comes back to what is most important to me? Do I want a relationship with my child…or do I want her to finish her spelling book (I actually want both, but I’m learning that relationship trumps rules)!!

  64. Sheila says:

    Thank you so much for this post. I’ve been homeschooling my 2 (boy and girl) for 2 years now. My son did spend a year in Kindergarten in the public school and had a great year and a fantastic teacher but I knew I was called to homeschool him before I put him in and at the end of the school year. The last 2 years haven’t been “perfect” by any stretch, well, by my “school” standards. I too, have my B.Ed. so I had these “expectations” but I’ve realized we have to go at their own pace and we accomplish what we accomplish. This last winter I found myself needing to sub, and ended up subbing for a sick-leave position which was a God-send really. My husband and parents were able to take up the homeschooling for me.
    Homeschooling has to be something you feel called to do because its only God that can get you through those rough days and when things get tough. Thank you for your write up. I think I’ll try to print it out and hang it up to encourage me during those “tougher” days. :)

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      I love this: “Homeschooling has to be something you feel called to do because its only God that can get you through those rough days and when things get tough.”

      So true! What a great opportunity to have your husband and parents do some of the homeschooling. I’m sure that was a really neat experience for everyone!

  65. I have 6 year old triplets and felt for years that I was being called to homeschool. My husband was against it so this last fall our 3 precious babies started kinder in public school. After multiple hospitalizations for various illnesses(they were never sick before) and many bullying incidents(the worst one was a third grader told one of my boys that he was going to kill his brother and sister), I approached my husband again about homeschooling. Lots of prayer and discussion followed and my husband finally agreed that we should give it a go. So, as they have no finished their last day of kinder in public school, we will be embarking on the homeschool journey. I’m excited and scared to death. Thank you for this post(which I also found through freehomeschooldeals.com). It is reassuring and pretty well sums up WHY *I* want to homeschool my babies.

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Oh, wow, what a terrible bullying incident in third grade!

      Just prayed for your journey. There will be great times and hard times, and I hope you can find a good support system to encourage you through it all!

  66. wende says:

    Perfectly written! I, as well, do not expect everyone to share my views, but I do wish they understood my views! I can’t imagine another way for my family. I hear the school bus at 8am and 4:30pm every day and I think “Thank God my children are not in school!!!”
    They would be gone for 81/2 hours everyday!
    Instead, we can accomplish their school work by noon each day and we have the rest of the day together. I’ll watch my children running and playing while I am washing the dishes and I pause to thank God for bringing me to this path. I am blessed to have been brought to homeschooling and I am thankful I followed God’s lead, even though I had to fight my own insecurities.
    I agree, this journey is not for everyone, but if the thought of homeschooling has crossed your mind, it is for a reason and it should be followed! Have faith and let your heart lead!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      I completely agree! Our buses roll by at 6:45 AM. Yikes! I can’t even imagine…

  67. Heidi says:

    Thank you so much for writing this article. I see now that it was written over a year ago but the timing was so perfect for me to read after finding it through free homeschool deals. God’s timing is always perfect! I also received a degree in elementary education and taught first grade for three years before becoming pregnant with our daughter. I never even thought twice about staying home with my daughter when my husband gave me the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. I never wanted to have my baby in child care all day. I wanted that to be my responsibility. But when my husband suggested I homeschool since I was a teacher, I could not fathom it. Our daughter has now finished third grade in a Christian school and since then we have a son who just finished kindergarten at the same school and a two year old boy. I actually applied to go back to teaching last year because I believed that was the path God had for our family but he closed that door and slowly has changed my heart completely around to homeschooling. It could only come from Him because like you said if someone told me I would be doing this I would have laughed. My daughter struggles with ADD symptoms, a very mild case but it is enough that she has slowly become very unhappy in a school environment, I have never labeled her or allowed anyone to label her or force us to use medicine. Homeschooling her seemed like it would help her and we were going to keep our other son in school, but God has urged me to teach both this coming year. I honestly did not think I could do it, even though I was a teacher but your article has encouraged me that I can do it. It does not have to be perfect at all times but wow, look at all the benefits to being home with my kids. I loved the analogy of giving someone your new car for hours a day. I loved my time in a school setting but am so excited that God has changed my heart to see that my talents and gifts can now be used in our home and not just as a diaper changing, laundry, dirty dishes, bathroom cleaning mom! Hehe! Thank you so much again for your willingness to write this article. You never know whose lives you touch. God bless!

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      That is so awesome, Heidi! I’ve just been blown away by the fact that this article I wrote so long ago could still be used to encourage someone today!

      You can do it for sure! You may have to “unlearn” some of the things you learned when you were teaching (at least I have had to)–they just don’t translate so well into a homeschool. My biggest learning curve has been to remember that I am teaching my children–and relationships are more important than making it through the math book every single day!

      Congrats on this new journey!

  68. Elizabeth says:

    As many others have already stated, this is a wonderful post and very encouraging. Even reading the comments is encouraging.. =] I’ve been considering homeschooling my boys (4 1/2yr old and 23 month old), and I think your five reasons describe exactly my feelings as to why I have been considering homeschooling. I have many feelings of doubt and uncertainty, but I trust God can help me through it – there are several families in our church that homeschool and I’ve already been asking for input. Thank you again for this post – even though you wrote it last year, it is a very timely and heartfelt piece that speaks to so many about protecting and encouraging the tender hearts of our children. =]

    • Stacie Nelson says:

      Thank you, Elizabeth! I think anything worth doing is difficult, so there are definitely challenges–but I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

  69. Thank you for this post. I’m bringing my kids home for our first year of homeschooling. I was also an elem ed teacher pre-kids. I want to trust in the system, but my heart says (and God) that this is what I need to do. Your post helped encourage me on a day when I was tempted to call the whole thing off. I had a rough day with my DS and we haven’t even started yet. And today would have been their first day back if they were going to public school this year. So thank you for this encouraging post about what was pretty much on my heart today.

    • How perfect! I’m so glad it was just what you needed at just the right time. Homeschooling is hard–but it’s good. I have to remind myself often that anything worth doing is hard, so give yourself time. I think the first few years are the hardest. I had to *unlearn* some of what I knew as a teacher and structure our environment so it fit our home and our family–not a classroom!

      Just prayed for you and hope you’ll be encouraged! You can do it!

  70. I loved this post because is says so well why I want to homeschool my daughter and any future children. I was a homeschool kid myself. I knew before I was even married that I wanted to homeschool. I even had a lady I went to church who also homeschools ask me if I wanted to homeschool. I told her with confidence that I definitely would. My mom is definitely all for it, but I think I’m going to have some concerns from my mother-in-law. If I do, I’ll just print this out and give it to her to read.

  71. Sherry Agar says:

    I am the Grandmother of two teenaged boys who have been homeschooled most of their schooling years. They are in grades 10 and 12 and I must say they are “Amazing” young men…they are comfortable in most situations whether the group is young, older or senior…
    I used to be a private school teacher and then worked in the public system as a TA for many years…my children went to public school and if the option of homeschooling were available when they were young, it would have been my #1 choice…
    Initially my daughter didn’t think she could do the all important job of schooling her boys, “but God”…I am so very proud of all of them and so thankful to The Lord for His faithfulness and love…
    Can’t wait to see how the future days unfold in the lives of these young men who love The Lord and desire to be all they can be in the Kingdom…:)

  72. I absolutely love this! I love it so much, I’ve bookmarked it and read it when I’m having a rough home school day. Thanks so much. It’s a bleSsing.

  73. Hi Stacie, Im starting to lesson plan for my 3.5 year old. Ive been seriously pondering home school (beyond preschool) but I am so nervous. I am a nurse, not a teacher, how do I ensure my kids dont fall behind? Someday they may choose to go to public schools (i hope not) but, I dont want to set them up for failure there or beyond (in their college years). Later on down the road when your girls are older, how do you plan to address topics you just arent connecting on. Sometimes my son and I are so alike we have a hard time seeing eye to eye. I fear I wont be an effective communicator to him, then what? I love this site, thank you so much for all your hard work. It has been such a catalyst for me!!

  74. This article has encouraged me further to homeschool my children. Thank you! I understand it is hard but my children are more important than anything in my life. It’s wonderful that others think the same about their little ones. I find it ridiculous when people argue about socializing and that the parents can’t possibly know the intricacies of each subject. Come on, if they don’t think parents know everything about everything, why do they expect their children to learn “the intricacies of each subject” from every single teacher for every subject? And there is no one better to socialize and learn with than your own family who you feel secure with.

  75. This article was well put and I must say that it helped me to settle my mind. I would be a little nervous though because my oldest son has already begun middle school and I feel a little weird or it may be wrong to take him out of school at this moment to homeschool him. I do have a 3 yr old at home with me and one on the way and I am pondering the decision. My problem is my partner. I have recently received Christ in 2013 and following in December before the yr ended so did my oldest 11 yr old son. My spouse all 3 of my childrens’ father has not yet done so, though. He is a skeptic about just about everything show me proof show me this show me that he has to see something move or work in order to try anything. Most of all though we have the battle of the thought of being a one income family. This conflict drives me crazy because I know how it would benefit my kids and the family but its my partner I would need to convince? That sounds kind of scary I should not need to convince anyone I would never do anything to endanger my children and I would definitely research and look into things before trying but I just don’t know what to do. Do you happen to have any advice?

  76. Suzanne C says:

    This was a wonderfully written article, Stacie. The school systems just are not set up to benefit children these days, with ‘common core’ and standardized testing. In our state, school funding is based on yearly test scores. All children, even the ones with learning disabilities, are driven to perform because lower test scores mean less money next year. How can a child learn with the state legislature balancing the budget on how well they do in math or reading?

    I was homeschooled through the 7th grade. My father then insisted on my going to public school. Let’s just say… he paid dearly for that lapse in judgement. I became a different person. And my education suffered. Our math teacher was the football coach, who did not have a degree in math or any form of education. Our science teacher was the basketball coach, who gave extra credit for attending games, but not for doing extra work. Our Spanish teacher didn’t speak English and sent people to the office for being ‘disrespectful’ when he got frustrated because he couldn’t understand the questions we were asking. The truly sad part is, this was over twenty years ago and our local school system has gotten worse.

    I tell that story to make this point: several of you have commented that your families are very negative and unsupportive of your decision to homeschool. Tell them to butt out. That’s not a very nice thing to say, but neither is questioning your right to parent the way you see fit. It’s no one else’s responsibllity or right. You are the one who will have to answer to God for the way you took care of your children. And you are the one who knows your children best. My father was extremely career-oriented and spent little time with me. If he had listened to my mother, it would have saved our entire family a great deal of heartache. And I might be able to speak Spanish. :-)

  77. As a father of 4 starting homeschool in a few weeks, I really enjoyed reading this. My wife and I started discussing this over a year ago when school started last year. At first she was very much opposed to the idea. But after praying and reading A LOT about it and speaking with friends who homeschool she is ready to go! We have a 10 year old son and 7 year old triplets, 2 boys 1 girl. They are super excited about homeschooling. Thank you for sharing and I am sharing this to encourage my and others. God bless.

  78. I am so thankful to have come across this tonight. I always said I would never homeschool my kids. However now that my daughter is at preschool age my heart breaks to send her away and I find myself led to homeschool (as God probably chuckles, remembering my “never” statement.) Reading this was a breath of fresh air, hearing you state so well what I’ve been feeling. I just purchased the preschool curriculum and am so excited to get started with it…as well as partner with you in supporting the girls orphanage in India! Thank you so much for sharing this. What a blessing!

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